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Knowing Me…Watching You?…A-ha

Okay, brace yourself, here comes a bit of a revelation: 

I love ABBA

And the above title got me singing ‘Knowing Me, Knowing You’.  This song is about relationships – more on that later – but it also makes me wonder… how much do we really know ourselves? 

Do we spend so much time musing about other people’s lives and activities that we lose sight of who we really are, and about relating to others, that we end up feeling more fragmented because we just do not meet other people’s ‘ideal’ standards?

I think sometimes we can spend far too much time watching what other people are up to, especially online, and then in a subconscious way we start comparing ourselves with them.  A subtle depression and inadequacy can take seed within us if we decide that we don’t measure up to what that person is doing or what this person is saying or achieving.  In the meantime, if we do not use that information to improve our own lives, our time is just ticking away and all we have ever done is stare at a screen to keep up with someone else.

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Posted in Books, Music, Reading, Singing

Book review: ‘Master Your Voice’ by Freya Casey

Firstly, please don’t be put off by the title of this book – Master Your Voice by Freya Casey. 

Even if you do not sing or are not a musician, there is so much to learn from this book.

We all have a voice for speaking as well as singing, so loving it and taking care of it is important for everyone.  Even if for some reason you ‘do not have a singing voice’ (which, by the way, I believe is not true – anyone can sing if they are prepared to take the time to work at it) you can still take away many things from this book. 

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Singers, you must have a purpose

When you sing, do you think about why you are doing it?  It could be just because we love to make a joyful noise, or that we want to improve our technique, we want to hit a particular note as accurately as possible, or just because we are happy to be alive.  We don’t want to overthink our singing, but we do want to ensure that we have a purpose.

More often than not singers don’t even think about purpose, but are too busy judging their own sound rather than enjoying the moment and the music.  Many singers find it difficult to get past the psychological battle going on in their heads – negative self-talk is a hard wall to get over.  Understanding why we sing or finding a purpose to sing is impossible if we keep telling ourselves that our voices are terrible, we keep comparing ourselves to others, or we think that people are either born singers or not.  You may want to sing with a greater purpose but find yourself stuck in this frame of mind. 

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