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Planet of the Fakes

I like positive posts (writing them and reading other people’s), and this is part of the reason why I started The MuSinGer, but sometimes having a good rant feels… well… invigorating.  Seriously though, taking the time to think about why we do what we do as humans and as a society can help us to intelligently question whether these things are actually good for us.

I know that the topic of the effects of social media has been done to death, but one day I was tired and instead of doing the sensible thing, shutting down early for the night, and going to sleep, I numbly looked through some random social media posts out in the ether.  My bad.  Not surprisingly, I soon became unsettled and fed up.  Why?  Well a summary of what I saw went something like this (note – what follows is a fictitious generalisation, not actual posts):

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Book review: ‘You Are Enough’ by Mandy Hale

A few posts ago I reviewed Mandy Hale’s book Beautiful Uncertainty.  Her newest book, You Are Enough: Heartbreak, Healing, and Becoming Whole, is the subject of today’s post. If you have read Beautiful Uncertainty, you could not ask for a greater contrast between that book and this new one, and perhaps even wonder if this book is by the same author – indeed it was a big surprise to me.  But I felt that the beauty about both books was not found in comparing them or judging whether one was better than the other, rather it was found in the reality of Mandy’s words and the raw emotion, maturity, wisdom, and passion which has developed in her life since she wrote Beautiful Uncertainty.  Clearly, life-changing things have happened to her in the years since that book, and deciding to write about her experiences to help others was a courageous thing to do. 

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Our Epidemic

Today’s topic is not something which many of us choose to talk about, but I think we seriously need to look at it.  Loneliness.  I’m not talking about choosing to have periods of time alone or intentional silence – that can actually be a very good thing for you, and many of us can cope with it pretty well (especially introverts).  But ongoing, persistent, unwanted loneliness is a real crisis of disconnection.  It affects the health, wellbeing, mind, and spirit of so many people around the world, despite appearances to the contrary.  Perhaps even many of you reading this right now have been or are going through this.

To say that it is a hidden epidemic of our modern times is not being overdramatic.  In fact, studies and science have proven that chronic loneliness is bad for you, and it is on the rise due to various factors – how we live, work, socialize (or not), our age, gender, stage in life, etc.  I won’t go into the details – you can read more about it here: Feeling isolated? You’re not alone. Here’s why 1 in 4 of us is lonely and Chronic Loneliness Is a Modern-Day Epidemic.  There are so many articles out there on the internet and programs on television which you can access, but today I hope to encourage you to think about being part of the solution.

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How to Live Like a Dog

My dog.

He longs for his walk, lives for his biscuit, purrs while being cuddled, seeks back massages, and loves his din-dins at the appointed hour.

That’s it.  That is how he defines a successful life.

He does not have a degree or a formal job (his informal job is being our security guard and loving companion but shhh… don’t tell him that).

When he waits for me to tuck him into bed at night, he just looks at me with those big brown eyes.

To us busy humans, he doesn’t seem to do much at all.

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Book review: ‘Beautiful Uncertainty’ by Mandy Hale

Today’s book review is about Beautiful Uncertainty by Mandy Hale.  Mandy is also a blogger and has written other books.  You can find her at The Single Woman blog.

Beautiful Uncertainty has class, emotion, poetic words, faith, and strength saturating its pages.  In fact, it is dripping in sweetness and comfort. 

It is like a best buddy, drinking a hot chocolate beside you on a cold Winter’s evening by the fire, wrapped in chunky woolens (or giving you a refreshing, cool drink if you are sweating through Summer right now).  It is a friend egging you on while you endure life’s ups and downs or if you are longing for something to happen – whether that is waiting for a significant other, marriage, children, a career change, miracle – whatever.  Even if you are not waiting for anything at all, it helps you live through your days with grace and peace.

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Part 2: Worker, be true to you – What now?

In my last post I discussed the importance of being true to yourself as a worker and job seeker, and especially if you have just (or may soon) quit a job.  If you missed it you can read Part 1 – Worker, be true to you and pop back over here when you’re done.

Today, in the second and final part of this series, I would like to present some ideas if you do not know what to do next.  So let’s assume that you have made the decision to quit your job (or that you have already done it) and don’t have anything lined up.  The main question we want to ask ourselves is: what do you do with yourself now?

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Part 1: Worker, be true to you

There was a time in my life when I decided that enough was enough.  I decided to quit a toxic situation at work even though I was great at my job, received excellent feedback at my performance reviews, enjoyed what I did, and liked most of the people I worked with.  It is true that sometimes you unfortunately have to “throw the baby out with the bath water”

It was a huge decision to go, but ultimately one that I was at peace with.  Enduring bullying is not worth sacrificing your health and wellbeing for, no matter how much money you are paid.  And, provided you have enough financially to see you through several months and are not starving or homeless, having another job ready and waiting for you is not necessarily going to be there on a silver platter.  It often feels like all of the planets have to be aligned.

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